Since my last post, Tate’s IEP meeting has been rescheduled twice. It is now next Wednesday. Jake’s IEP meeting was yesterday.
We were under a time constraint, as most of the team had another meeting at 9:45. About 5 minutes into the IEP, the principal joined the fray. She has never been at an IEP meeting, so Hubz and I got a little uneasy….but she mostly sat and nodded and added a few comments here and there. It became clear to us that she just doesn’t understand special ed…or ADHD. At all. *sigh*
Overall, the meeting went well. We have a good plan in place for Jake. He is blessed with another fantastic teacher, who really understands the need for accommodations, modifications, and specialists and such. She is so helpful and had a plethora of ideas to help Jake succeed in school. His resource teacher is good, and is incredibly willing to work with the general education teacher to make sure that Jake isn’t missing out on a “typical” 4th grade experience. I absolutely love that the resource teacher is pushing into his classroom to help him (and a couple other students) more. I think that is huge for Jake.
The toughest part of the meeting, as always, is listening to the areas of weakness. That never, ever is easy. I will never, ever be comfortable with it. Hubz and I agreed with the statements made about Jake’s current areas of need, but it’s just not easy to hear about your child struggling. Especially when the number one struggle is anxiety.
Anxiety. The anxiety beast runs rampant around here..and right now, it’s got it’s clutches on Jake. He is so debilitated by his anxiety. It is heartbreaking. We scheduled an appointment with his psychiatrist on Friday. I am trying to get a psychologist appointment, too. We brainstormed some ideas during our meeting to help him combat the beast while he’s at school. We have a few checklists that he can use in his folder, and we decided that he should get a daily “bounce break” in the social worker’s office. He can use her ball, her trampoline, or just sit and decompress…after math. Because math and numbers are another of his nemeses. (??)
Overall, though, my fears about placement in a self-contained classroom were assuaged. They want him in the general education setting. We all believe that if we can get through the anxiety component, we can really watch him flourish. So, we are all in agreement that his placement in general ed/resource is right for him.
School shouldn’t be this stressful for kids. It just shouldn’t.